After praise yesterday, the Lord told me, "There's no such thing as the 'unlovable'." I was taken aback by that statement and continued to be until Daddy reminded me of something.
Years ago, I struggled greatly in the first go-round with marriage, and I wanted Abba to listen to all my complaints against my (now ex) husband. But - albeit very lovingly - the Lord told me He was not interested in anything I had to say about my spouse. I tried to act as though I wasn't absolutely appalled by that statement, but that doesn't work with Abba; He knew I was confused and insulted. Silly me.
As always, God didn't leave me at the mercy of "my own understanding" regarding His words; He never does that. Rather, back then He explained to me that my wedding vows weren't made to my new spouse - they were made to God regarding my new spouse. I was floored by that; but absorbing that truth at that critical time changed my whole outlook on the marriage and my relationship with God.
Now - nearly 20 years later - the Lord has repeated that truth, only with the much broader application of people in general. There's no such thing as the 'unlovable'. As always, He went on to say that loving someone by His definition is a matter between He and I alone. My obedience to God has nothing to do with the behavior of the person I'm called to love. Then He added, "If you find someone to be 'unlovable', it's because your focus is in the wrong place."
Whoa... yet again, I was floored. That's such a catch-phrase in Christianity today - love the unlovable - y'all know what I mean. Well, what an unpleasant joke that's turned out to be, because it doesn't even exist in truth to Almighty God!
Beloved, when we love someone by God's definition, we agree to have His heart for them, not our own. He does not require "fondness" from us regarding every person, rather respect for them being His creation, and regard for the truth that HE loves them and is their only Eternal Judge. Our God-defined love for people has nothing to do with their performance; rather, it remains in the capable Hands of He Who Judges Wisely and has all power.
Just as His love for us has never been based on our actions, attitudes, or moods we are to be of the same mind toward others; if we're not, and if we struggle in showing unconditional love to others because they are "difficult"... our focus is in the wrong place.
Thankfully, Abba also said He does allow boundaries to be placed by His Spirit in our relationships with hurt, wounded, rejected, unlawful, sad people He's asked us to reach in His Name. Their attitudes constantly reflect negative encounters, pain, and bad choices made by them and others, and the flesh in them automatically lashes out at God's Spirit in us. It's then that Daddy orchestrates time spent and words said so that our hearts can remain aligned with His to reveal/share truth, intercede, expose sin, and remove all excuse from their mouths.
Looking at loving others as a matter of obedience strictly between me and God has again changed my outlook on life. I'm sure I'm not alone in my heartfelt desire to do always those things that please God, and the crucial matter of showing love by His definition ranks highest among them.
God bless you.
"... fervent in spirit, serving the Lord."